Management of Others and Ourselves

A survey asking what are the factors that are often complained about her supervisor of an employee found nine main points, namely: (1) attitude / actions such as judges, (2) arrogant, (3) can not show / give awards to employees, (4 ) can not or do not want to see / hear the views from another angle, (5) does not have leadership skills, (6) does not open and dishonest, (7) is not able to delegate its responsibilities, (8) unable to make decisions quickly and precisely and (9) bias, let emotions affect decisions.

Cek Kemampuan Kontrol Diri Anda

TIAP orang memerlukan kebebasan untuk menjadi kreatif dan mengaktualisasi diri. Di sisi lain, kendali dari dalam diri diperlukan sebagai regulasi atas dorongan dan kemampuan yang dimiliki, baik secara fisik, psikis, maupun perilaku.

Bertindak tanpa pikir panjang merupakan ciri khas yang melekat pada anak-anak. Mereka bertindak spontan. Bila sakit mereka akan menangis di mana saja, kapan saja, dan dalam situasi apa saja. Bila gembira, anak yang sehat akan berlarian, mencoret-coret, berteriak-teriak girang, atau melakukan apa pun yang ia inginkan.

Check Your Self-Control Ability

EACH person needs the freedom to be creative and self actualization. On the other hand, control of the self-regulation is necessary as the instigation and capabilities, whether physical, psychological, and behavioral.

Acting without thinking is a characteristic inherent in children. They acted spontaneously. When sick they will cry anywhere, anytime, and in any situation. When happy, healthy child will run, scribbling, shouting excitedly, or do whatever he wants.

Imagine if this kind of behavior by adolescents or adults. Of course, quite strange. We would feel very disturbed when finding someone who is no longer the children act as they pleased, let impulses or desires that are selfish manifest granted.

The more a person gets older, he expected more and have control over their own behavior. In other words, the more developed the ability to control themselves.

Full / self control (self-control) is the influence or regulation or a person against the physical, behavioral, and psychological processes (Calhoun & Acocella, 1990). It is very important in a person's life. Why?

First, self-control plays a role in one's relationships with others. This is not out of the fact that we do not live alone, but in groups, in the community. In fact, we have personal needs such as food, drink, warmth, and so forth. To meet these needs we need to control yourself in such a way, so as not to disturb others.

Second, self-control plays a role in the achievement of personal goals. Every person, from any culture, always expect to achieve certain goals in life. For example, in order to have a certain competence, achieve personal maturity, and so forth, in accordance with the standards that exist in society.

In order to achieve these objectives we need to learn and try over and over, and control themselves by delaying the gratification of the needs of a moment in order to achieve long-term goals.

By developing the ability to control himself as well as possible, we will become an effective person, so that it can consistently feel happy, free from guilt, to live more constructively, to accept yourself, and also accepted by the community.

Internal and External Control

Increasing age, a person is expected to increasingly develop the ability to control his behavior. Where source control one's behavior? Its source can be divided into two: factors inside and outside one's self.

Control behavior that comes from within themselves are usually referred to as an internal control, and that comes from outside ourselves is called external control. In self-control (internal), individuals regulate their own behavior and performance standards; give reward for himself if successfully achieve the objectives, and to punish himself when not managed to reach the goal.

On the other hand, the external controls, the individual placing another person as a determinant (the cause) of behavior, performance standards, and the rewards gained.

Of the two types of behavior control, personal control (internal) were considered more valuable. Throughout we rely on external control, our lives are largely determined by anyone else. Instead, by developing self-control (internal) means we control two things: ourselves and the world around us.

Self Control Problem

As explained above, self-control a well-developed will provide many benefits to a person. However, in reality, not all self-control we are able to perform consistently.

Our self-control ability varies. There are people who are often too much to drink (until drunk), others too much to eat, others are more easily lose control of emotions, tends to delay the job, and so forth. How can this be happening?

Just as a strong self-control, self-control are weak also develop through the learning process. For example, a teenager who still impulsive, which is always angry when his wish was fulfilled, the possibility of becoming so because since childhood, her parents always comply with all requests (to function as a reward) every time the child was whining to ask anything, even more so when her son was getting angry.

When this kind of reward pattern occurs repeatedly, it means that the child undergo a process of learning that his request would be fulfilled when accompanied by anger. Subsequently he developed a pattern of angry behavior each time his request has not been met.

Someone who has a habit of delaying the work, may become so because from childhood accustomed to working under pressure parents (functioning as a punishment). In such a situation he is motivated to do the task just to avoid punishment. Consequently, in a situation without any pressure, he tends to get lazy.

CIRI-CIRI ORANG SUKSES

Ciri-ciri Orang Sukses - Orang sukses adalah orang yang terus mencoba, meskipun telah mengalami banyak kegagalan. Ia memandang kehidupan sebagai peluang untuk mencapai kesuksesan. Itulah kira-kira kesimpulan dari penelitian selama 40 tahun terhadap orang-orang sukses. Yang dicoba ditemukan dari mereka adalah bagaimana dan mengapa mereka tergerak untuk menjadi teratas dibidang masing-masing, dari olah raga, pendidikan, hingga pasar modal. Apa sebenarnya yang mereka ketahui dan lakukan untuk menjadi sukses? Berikut ada tujuh hal yang dilakukan mereka dalam meraih sukses:

1. Orang sukses mau mengambil risiko. Mereka berupaya untuk mencapai target, melakukan penghematan, membangun relasi dengan banyak orang, dan gesit mencoba sesuatu yang baru guna mengikuti perkembangan zaman. David C. McClelland, seorang guru besar yang mendalami perjalanan orang-orang sukses serta telah melakukan perjalanan ke banyak negara dan melatih pengusaha kecil ,menyatakan cara menjadi pengusaha kecil sukses adalah dengan menjadi pengambil risiko moderat; yang mau terus mengambil risiko untuk meraih sukses.

2. Orang sukses percaya diri dan merasakan bahwa mereka berbuat sesuatu untuk dunia. Mereka memandang sebuah dunia yang besar dan ingin memainkan peranan penting di dalamnya. Mereka tetap bekerja sesuai keterampilan mereka, sambil tetap menyadari bahwa keterampilan inti memberi nilai kepada keterampilan lainnya. Mereka juga sadar, karya terbaik akan menghasilkan kompensasi bagi mereka.

3. Orang sukses menikmati apa yang sedang mereka lakukan. Mereka mampu melihat pekerjaan sebagai kesenangan; mereka memilih bekerja di mana mereka dapat unggul. Orang sukses menyukai tantangan; mereka menikmati pencapaian puncak permainan mereka, apakah dipekerjaan, lapangan tenis atau lapangan golf.

4. Orang sukses adalah pelajar seumur hidup. Mereka menyadari,pendidikan tak pernah berakhir tapi dimulai disetiap tingkatan kehidupan dan terus berlanjut hingga akhir kehidupan. Pendidikan tidak terbatas di ruang kelas; artinya mencoba ide baru,membaca buku, surat kabar, majalah, dan menggunakan Internet merupakan bentuk pendidikan pula. Karena itu, tetaplah mengalir sesuai perubahan ketertarikan dan kemampuan Anda, dan nikmati perubahan. Ini akan membantu Anda tumbuh dan merasakan lebih percaya diri.

5. Orang sukses berpandangan positif terhadap apa yang dapat mereka kerjakan, dan ini meluas pada hal-hal lain. Mereka percaya gelas itu setengah penuh dan bukan setengah kosong. Mereka menanamkan semangat pada diri sendiri dan dapat membayangkan diri bagaimana mereka berhasil menyelesaikan suatu tugas sulit atau mencapai penghargaan tertinggi. Orang sukses berbuat bagaikan pelatih bagi orang lain, dengan menyuguhkan pesan-pesan positif dalam kehidupan sehari-hari. Mereka senang melihat orang lain membua tonggak sejarah dalam kehidupan mereka.

6. Orang sukses punya banyak cara untuk memotivasi diri sendiri sehingga dapat terus berkarya lebih baik dari yang lain. Ada yang dengan cara melakukan beberapa pekerjaan setiap hari pada bidang berbeda. Seorang pria setengah baya memotivasi dirinya sendiri dengan mencoba mendapatkan lebih banyak uang dari pada kakaknya. Seorang wanita berusia 29 tahun menjadi perawat top untuk menunjukkan kepada bekas gurunya bahwa dia memiliki keterampilan dan kecerdasan memadai untuk mencapai profesi itu.

7. Orang sukses menyelesaikan tugas tidak dengan setengah-setengah, dan mereka menggunakan cara kreatif dalam meraih sukses. Meski mungkin membutuhkan waktu lebih lama, mereka akhirnya melampaui garis finis. Mereka manfaatkan waktu dengan baik dalam mensinergikan kemampuan fisik dan mental untuk mencapai sukses.

Rasanya, Anda bisa juga mencoba. Siapa tahu Anda pun mampu mengikuti jejak mereka.

CHARACTERISTICS OF SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE

Characteristics of Successful People - Successful people are those who continue to try, although it has experienced many failures. He looked at life as an opportunity to achieve success. That's roughly the conclusion of the study during 40 years of successful people. Who tried found from them is how and why they moved to the top of each field, from sports, education, until the capital markets. What exactly did they know and do to be successful? Here are seven things that carried them to success: